Grief is a deeply personal journey. It comes in waves, can last for different lengths of time and looks different for everyone. After the loss of a loved one, it is normal to feel sad, overwhelmed or even numb. But what happens when those feelings linger for months or even years? What if the pain doesn’t seem to fade or gets worse over time?
When grief feels like it is taking over your life, it might be time to consider getting extra help.
Understanding Normal Grief
What Grief Usually Looks Like
Grief is the natural response to loss. Common signs include sadness, crying, lack of energy, trouble sleeping, loss of appetite and difficulty focusing. These feelings usually ease over time, even if they never fully disappear.
Most people find that their emotions soften as they return to daily routines. Memories may still bring tears, but they can also bring comfort. You may miss your loved one every day, but you’re able to carry on with work, family and life.
There’s No Exact Timeline
Grief doesn’t follow a schedule. Some people feel better in a few months, while others take years. It’s also common for grief to come and go or resurface on anniversaries and holidays. Just because someone appears to be “moving on” doesn’t mean they’ve forgotten their loss—it simply means they are finding ways to cope.
When Grief Becomes More Serious
What Is Complicated Grief?
Sometimes grief becomes more intense or long-lasting. This is known as complicated grief or prolonged grief disorder. It can feel like you’re stuck in mourning, unable to function or find any relief from the sadness.
People experiencing complicated grief may feel that life no longer has meaning. They might avoid reminders of their loved one or, on the opposite end, constantly think about them in a way that makes it hard to focus on anything else.
Many people get support from family, friends or their community. Some rely on religious or spiritual practices. Others turn to funeral homes for guidance beyond the service itself, as many offer grief support or can connect you with professionals.
Signs You Might Need Extra Support
If you’re wondering whether your grief has become something more serious, ask yourself these questions:
- Have your symptoms lasted longer than six months with little or no improvement?
- Are you struggling to do basic daily tasks, such as going to work, cleaning, or eating?
- Do you feel emotionally numb or hopeless most of the time?
- Have you become isolated or withdrawn from others?
- Are you having frequent thoughts of guilt, worthlessness or wishing you had died too?
- Are you using alcohol, drugs or other coping behaviours more than usual?
If you answered yes to any of these, it may be time to seek professional support. Funeral homes often provide resources or referrals for grief counsellors, psychologists or support groups. You are not alone, and there is no shame in asking for help.
Where to Get Help
Speak With a GP
Your first step might be to speak with your local doctor. They can assess your symptoms and refer you to a mental health professional. You might be eligible for a mental health care plan, which can make sessions with a psychologist more affordable.
Reach Out to Funeral Homes
Many funeral homes do more than arrange services. They often have trained staff who can help you navigate grief or connect you with trusted grief counsellors and support groups in your area. Some also offer community workshops or remembrance events.
Consider Grief Counselling
A grief counsellor can help you understand and work through your emotions. They can guide you in finding healthy ways to remember your loved one and build a life that feels meaningful again. Counselling is a safe space where you can talk openly without judgement.
Join a Support Group
Sharing your experience with others who have also lost someone can be comforting. Support groups offer a sense of understanding and connection. You can learn coping strategies, ask questions and feel less alone.
How Loved Ones Can Help
If you’re supporting someone who is grieving, there are ways to help without pushing them. Be patient and listen. Offer to help with daily tasks like cooking or cleaning. Encourage them to get professional support if they are struggling to cope.
Sometimes just being present is the best support you can give. You don’t need to fix their pain—you just need to let them know they are not alone.
Grief doesn’t come with a rulebook. It’s different for everyone, and there’s no deadline for feeling better. But if your sadness feels heavy every day, if it is stopping you from living your life or if you feel stuck and unable to move forward, it’s important to know that support is available.
Funeral homes can be a valuable starting point when looking for grief resources or referrals. Whether it’s a conversation with your GP, a local support group, or a session with a grief counsellor, taking the first step towards healing can make all the difference.
You deserve to heal in your own time, but you don’t have to do it alone.
